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Online Gay and Lesbian Relationships: Can They Last?

Surfing the Internet has opened up the doors to a new relationship for many people. Whether you are shy, or just too busy to spend each night at the club, the Internet offers something for everyone. You have such options as chat rooms, IRC, and the numerous dating sites - and then there are message boards and Instant Messengers as well. However, once upon a time the Internet was a taboo place people visited but rarely talked about. This is especially true if you were there to find gay or lesbian love.

The majority of people chose to knock the Internet when it came to its revolutionary dating capabilities. Why would any normal person need to go on the Internet to find love? It just didn't make any sense. Of course it makes sense, now. Whoever was foolish enough to believe you could only find your soul mate in whatever town you were born in didn't know much about love, and they certainly didn't hold knowledge of the 21st Century.

The question should not be and never should have been, "Why the Internet?" Instead it should be, "How easy is it to maintain a relationship on the Internet?" The answer, of course, is going to need to be answered in various parts and will depend on a number of factors.

If you're looking for love on the Internet you may just find it. However, you should make sure your goals match the person you are trying to form a relationship with. If you are feeling a spark with that special guy or gal, and you are both unwilling to relocate, then you are either going to have to get used to cyber love or find someone else that can meet your needs.

Relationships that form on the Internet are fine - however, most people intend for them to move offline at some point. If you meet a person that seems great, but is hesitant about ever meeting, then you can assume that they're either living out some fantasy online or that they're married or has a partner that you are not supposed to know about. In either case, if your new love interest seems content with the perpetual idea of a never-ending cyber love affair you may want to begin scanning the profiles for a new bed warmer.

Always make sure you are completely honest. You need to know what you want, and you need to be able to communicate your needs at all times. You should expect the same from any partner you find, as well. In the beginning of any relationship you go through a 'feeling out' period. During this time you bring up things such as marriage, kids, work, and general life. This is the period where you work to define the two of you as 'couple potential'.

During this period, or for at least a portion, if your relationship is long distance, you will be on the Internet. You should take this time to have long conversations and get to know one another.

· Does he want to move, or are you willing to relocate to his area if things work out?
· How many meetings do you wish to plan before one of you move?
· How will the job situation work?
· Do either of you have or want children?
· Are your relationship needs and goals the same?
· Will you agree to see other people until you are together, or are you going to be monogamous?

These are just some of the things that need to be addressed. You should also remember that - no matter how much you think you know someone - it doesn't mean that you do. Until you have been together in person you will not have a good understanding of how life will be in a relationship with that person. You should never decide to move, or let someone else move, the very first time you will be meeting. This is perhaps the worst idea because, like a relationship that is formed in a traditional way, when things are good they will be great - but when they are bad they will be awful, and that isn't something you want to go through if you can avoid it.