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Lesbian and Gay Dating - Should You Date Online?

The internet has opened up the world for so many people regarding so many things, and the same is true when it comes to same-sex dating. Remember the days when you had to rely on your gaydar and hope it wasn't leading you astray? I mean, let's face it; a pass at someone who's straight could get you anything from a cold stare to a punch in the nose. So, it takes a lot of bravery to rely on your gaydar alone to make the first move.

Ah, then there were those blind dates set up by well-meaning friends. After an agonizing hour of polite dinner conversation that stretched on and on until the dessert was finished, you realized that the only thing you had in common with your blind date was that you were both attracted to the same sex. Unfortunately, that did not include an attraction to each other.

And then there's the club scene. At least you won't get decked in a gay club for assuming that your straight conquest might enjoy some attention, but who has the kind of nerve it takes to approach a complete stranger, gay or straight? I mean, there could be a significant other who just stepped over in the next room to play a game of pool. Or you could become painfully reminded of all of your flaws when your advances are shot down with that dreaded "as if" look.

If only there were an even playing field, a place where you could get to know people without any pressure. You could be yourself, and they could be their self. You could talk for a while, get to know each other, and then, if things were going well, you could decide to meet someplace neutral to see if any sparks flew. You could pick prospective dates based on personality traits, wants, and needs instead of relying on looks alone.

Well such a place does exist if you are open minded enough to give online dating a shot. In the world of online dating, there are numerous sites that cater to gay and lesbian singles looking to meet that special someone. You can find great personal ads on top matchmaking sites such as match.com, gaycrawler.com and gaydardate.com. Some sites even cater toward matching up people who identify with, and are looking to hook up with, someone who identifies with certain labels. Just check out butch-femme.com for instance. Here you will find scores of hot butches looking for a leading lady and vice versa. Hmmm…I'll be right back. Always got to take a little time to check out the butches…

Anyway, where was I? Oh yes, online dating. Should you do it? My answer is this: If you're not already doing it, you're missing out on a world of opportunity unparalleled in this universe. I mean, if you go to a club, chances are you'll have maybe 30 to 40 singles to choose from. But when you date online, you could have hundreds of gay singles right at your fingertips. Odds are that you'll be able to entice at least one of them to go out on a date, and who knows, you may be able to book up your weekends for the next few months.

So, how do you get started? Since most sites require a subscription, you will first have to subscribe to the dating site of your choice. Then, you will have to write a profile that other people can read to see if they're interested in chatting with you, or getting to know you better. As you can guess, the profile is all important. They say that you never get a second chance to make a first impression! Well, the online dating profile is your first - and probably the only - impression that you will get to make in the online dating world. So, choose your words and pictures wisely.

Here are just a few tips for creating a great personal profile:

· Always post a picture. I don't want to hear any of your whining about privacy and not wanting your picture to get into the wrong hands. I mean, what can someone do with a picture of your face? (Please, post a picture of your face only fellas. Leave a little to the imagination.) Let's be honest. When you browse through profiles, what do you look at first? The picture? Do you even waste time on profiles without pictures? Probably not. So, why would anyone else be wasting time going through hundreds of profiles without pictures. The truth is that most people who browse through personal ads look at pictures first. Then, if they see something that they like, they actually read what the person has written.

· Come up with an eye-catching screen name. Instead of using something generic like f.smith, why not choose a name that describes you in a creative and memorable way? How about something like cutelilbutch or blueeyeddevil? Whatever you choose, make sure it is memorable. Remember, people are going to be looking at profiles other than yours. Make sure yours stands out.

· Put your best shot into the first sentence or two of your profile. As humans growing up in the information age, we all tend to have a very short attention span. So, if you're going to grab someone's attention you need to do it in the very beginning of your profile.

· Never lie. Okay, if you are a bit chubby, say so when filling out the description on your profile. And if you only make $14,000 a year instead of the $140,000 you wish you made, opt for leaving the space black before giving a false impression. The bottom line is this: You want to meet these people eventually, right? How are you going to explain your 50 lb. weight gain that took place in a couple of weeks, or the fact that you are a jobless CEO with a Pinto instead of a Porsche? You know what? People don't care if you're not an ideal weight. In fact, I have a friend who looks only at profiles of girls with chubby in their description. And most people don't care how much money you make...and, if they do, you don't want to be with them anyway! However, what most people do care about is being lied to. So be truthful!

Now that you have all of the knowledge you need to create a profile that people will remember, all you need to do is wait for the hits to start rolling in. Just remember to be yourself and not to book more than one date per night.

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